Having someone to talk to is one efficient way of relieving the pain and easing the burden that is trapped inside you. If you are diagnosed with herpes and nobody knows it except you and your conscience, my best advice is to tell your immediate family -- your parents and siblings -- about your situation. If you don't have a family to speak with, confide your case with your most trusted friends. Don't kill yourself by keeping the problem to yourself. There are people who are more than willing to help.